I was working in a boys’ boarding school when I got married and a few of the kids started calling me Big Kern when I got my new last name. It seemed so funny at the time because it just didn’t fit. I was shy my whole life, following the crowd and trying to be who I thought everyone wanted me to be. I got to my late 30s and felt like maybe I was made for more. Maybe if I got over the self-consciousness of what other people think and did the things that I love, that stoke the fire in my own heart, I’d find out that I can be and do the things I love and still be accepted and loved.
Be loved for the version of me that makes me happiest. Now THAT sounds like Big Kern.
I’m a work in progress. But that means I’m getting there! And it also means it’s actually work. The past few years have been full of trials, errors, successes, and more learning and growth than I ever expected. I took ownership of my life by creating good habits and kicking bad ones, like daily, heavy drinking. I completed a certification course in life and alcohol coaching so that I can help others create the life that makes them happiest. I’m doing the things I love – things that make me feel like the best version of myself – and the people I love the most are loving me more, too.
I’m becoming Big Kern.
These are a few of my favorite things:
- Self Care – Friday afternoons are for beauty masks and Xbox!
- Cooking & Baking
- Eating – some healthy, some not
- Family Play Time
- Personal Development
- Hot Coffee
- Ice Cold Ginger Beer or Bitter Lemon